Some of the most stressful life events and transitions can involve the following according to research carried out by Richard Rahe and his research team (2000; 1972):
- Death of a spouse or child
- Marital separation
- Death of a close family member
- Personal injury or illness
- Dismissal from work
- Marital reconciliation
The following events were listed as ‘honourable mentions’ to the top 10 most stressful events.
Change in health of family member
- Sex difficulties
- Gain of a new family member
- Change in financial state
- Death of a close friend
- Change to a different line of work
- Son or daughter leaving home
- Begin or end school/university
- Change in residence
- Making a major change to sleeping habits
- Making a major change to eating habits
While many well-being commentators emphasise the importance of resilience and positive thinking when these changes happen, this may mask over important areas of psychology including:
- grief over the loss that has taken place (McCollough et al, 2003)
- acceptance that you are probably having to start a new phase of life as a novice and that this will involve a few different perceived failures as you transition; this period of time may involve feelings that mimic anxiety, depression and ongoing stress (Dweck, 1999)
- accepting that identity may evolve over this period (Hayes, Strosahl & WIlson, 2012)
Psychological therapy may assist in life transitions as a way to discuss grief, change and challenges that await. Psychological therapy can also help in determining ways to balance acceptance and change during life transitions.
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